Although the word “lover” has some derogatory connotations nowadays, and become lovers are not very moral, it is common in the real world.
In this period, people often care about each other because of emotional attraction and physical attraction, but they are also worried about losing each other, so getting along with each other is very special. However, if you express your emotions tactfully, it is often easy for others to detect it.
Especially after becoming a couple, lovers are different from couples. We need to be cautious about these four important privacy secrets because they have a profound impact on our emotions
income secrets
Once people have money, they often become arrogant. This seems to be human nature.
In this world, wealth is an extremely sensitive topic. Everyone cares about their own income and wealth, often to a degree that exceeds imagination. In today’s society, money worship has become a fashion.
When we have more wealth, we will also care about people’s attitude towards our income and wealth.
Of course, money is a very sensitive topic in relationships, but it is essential. When two people get together, there will naturally be many issues that need to be discussed, especially when two people are together, there will be many areas that need to be reconciled.
However, when it comes to issues of money and interests, it is often like an insurmountable gap that lies deeply between you. Once such cracks occur, they are often difficult or even impossible to repair.
Between lovers, the secrets of money and income are relatively cautious. But there are also some people who always like to brag to their lovers about how rich they are. This kind of vanity is likely to affect you.
planning secrets
Everyone has a vision for the future, which is both their expectations for themselves and their commitment to their partner. However, lovers and couples are different. Because yours may change over time.
You tell us your outlook for the future, but the X factor in the future is always unpredictable. You don’t know whether this relationship will last forever and whether it will come true.
Love draws two people together, and the future is like a mirror, reflecting countless possibilities.
You tell your lover about your future, but he or she (she) is constantly speculating in your mind. He (she) tries to decipher your future blueprint and tries to understand whether you really mean it.
However, such speculations and doubts may cause rifts in your love.
Such an approach is actually more gain than loss. If you tell them all about your future plans, they (she) may take advantage of you and put you in a dilemma. Therefore, why not let this vision for the future become a driving force for both parties to move forward together, rather than a shackle that binds both parties?
Therefore, when facing a lover, it is best to keep future plans and secrets in your heart and let them take root naturally in the long river of time. In this way, our love will not be subject to any constraints, and we can move forward fearlessly on the road to the future.
Secrets old and new
When love is a thing of the past, the love between lovers also quietly withers away. The most taboo thing for a man is to hear the criticism of him from the woman he once deeply loved.
If a woman confides these buried resentments to her new love, the man will fall into confusion, as if he has lost his way in the whirlpool of emotions, and may even ignite the flames of anger.
When a man feels lost in a relationship, he will wonder if he is being teased. He may also feel that he has become an emotional victim when he realizes that he cannot find comfort in his lover.
If this dissatisfaction turns into emotional estrangement and eventually leads to separation, if the woman reveals the reason to her new lover, the man will fall into deep self-blame and even doubt his own value.
Therefore, women’s dissatisfaction with men should be buried deep in their hearts, and they should remain silent even in the face of their closest friends. Because once these words spread, they are like water that is thrown out and can never be taken back.
Family secret
Many people deceive themselves into thinking that there is no dispute between them and their partner, so everything they say will be silently accepted by the other person. However, once such self-righteous remarks become known to outsiders, it is like detonating a bomb in a love scene, causing countless waves.
This is the so-called “Too many words lead to misunderstandings.” Your words become the subject of conversation after dinner. Not only do you make yourself the object of ridicule by others. But you also expose these contradictions in front of your lover and turn the matter into a public topic.
Discord and disputes within the family, disputes between husband and wife. And conflicts between parents and children are all unavoidable phenomena in our lives. Although many families choose to remain silent in order to save face. These conflicts are always like a time bomb that may explode at any time.
Therefore, lovers must talk as little as possible about their families. It is not wise to complain about your spouse in front of your lover, as it may cause unnecessary trouble.
